The best running and life lessons that I learned from my 3 year old
I do have a coach, and a good one at that (thank you Ian Torrence). Â But as I was thinking about how things have evolved for me as a runner in the last 4 years, I notice that many of the lessons I take with me on the trail were given to me by my daughter. Â I wanted to share a few things that she gave me.
1.  Love for sunshine, dirt, mud and plain fun.  So many workouts prior to Eva, were just workouts.  Not saying I didn’t love them, but I did “work.” for them  more times than just enjoy the hard challenges.  I got to watch my daughter fall in love with grass and dirt and mud pies and the intrigue of being on singletrack with her mama.  I began to find myself smiling more on my daily runs.  I would actually see and look for bugs, plants or I would stomp in a muddy puddle on purpose.  Just cause it’s fun.  Running done just for fun is the best kind. You can still work hard and smile.
2. Helping others is such a privilege. Â All Eva wants to do is to help me. Â Can she water the garden, can she help me cook, can she wash the plates in the sink? Always asking to help me. I got to thinking, if all adults were as eager to help as a toddler, we would live in a different world. Â I apply this to my running when I am in racing mode and instead of running against someone, for the sake of competition. Â I think about running with them and beside them. Â Helping each other achieve our best day. Â When I ran Pine to Palm in 2012, Jen Shelton and I were together leading the race. Â In the hottest part of the day, she started puking. Â Yeah it was a race, but I stuck with her to make sure she was ok. Â It felt wrong to leave her at that moment. Â I see this happen every time I’m at an ultra. Â We are constantly helping one another. I love this sport.
3. Â Sometimes its better to just lay down and nap. Â Work, running, chores can wait. Â The hardest thing for me to do is simply to be. Â Eva, though a usual bad sleeper, would throw her hands in the air and try to resist a nap, but would give in, sleep away and wake up a different person. Â When your day is going to shit, try taking a nap.
4. Â Put down the phone, the facebook, the twitter and just go do and be. Â The greatest reward to watching Eva grow is to learn to be in the moment. Â Stop multi-tasking, checking instagram and zoning out. Â One of the greatest weekends our family had, was backpacking and crewing a section of the JMT while our friends were out setting the FKT (Hal and Mike). Â No phone, no zoning out, just talking to one another and being in nature made for a slow feeling moment in life. Â Kids are always in the moment. Â They capture each minute and go with it.
5. Practice makes you better. Â When Eva has tried to do anything: walk, crawl, draw, paint, ride a bike, she has practiced it over and over and over. She taught me that we are all rookies at things until one day we aren’t. Â I am not sure when you cross the line over to expert, but it takes a ton of dedication, practice and patience to get there. Â If Eva wants to do something, she does it. Â Failure isn’t an option. As I think about next season in running, and my return to competition, I think about this the most. Â Practice and then practice some more.